EXPERTS OF FOREIGN POLICY AND DIPLOMACY
by Antonio C. Antonio
April 11, 2014
Yesterday, I posted (on my Facebook wall) a photo of a woman in a bank
with the following narration: “This lady came waltzing inside a bank this
morning and acted as if she was the Queen of the Universe. She didn't bother to
take a number, went straight to the teller as if no one else was there and said
she wanted her passbook updated. Half a
dozen bank clients (including me) sat there in disbelief as the teller gave in
to her demands. After the teller handed
back her passbook, she turned around without even saying thanks and walked
straight out. Is there a logical
explanation for this behavior?”
A steady stream of comments were posted on this thread by my Facebook
friends and me:
- Female Friend
No. 1: “yes, kinda dumb and dumber…”
- Female Friend
No. 2: “Baka bag lady ng senator, Tito.”
- Male Friend No. 1: “May
‘AMAT’”
- Female Friend No. 3: “Astig…
siga”
- Female Friend No 4: “Napag
utusan lng yn po feeling nya kanya un. Haha. Dami n gnyan sir we’ve got
the same experience kya ignore nlang pagka borderline personality”
- Me: “Dumb” is the right descriptive
word for this incident, Female Friend No. 1… Kami actually ang “dumbest”
for being too dumbfounded and too shocked to react. Lahat kami
nag-titinginan lang while I was prepping my mobile phone to take a shot.
Hahaha…
- Me: "Bag
lady"? Wala syang dalang bag, Female Friend No. 2... payong
lang. Hahaha...
- Me: TAMA ka,
Male Friend No. 1… sabi nga ni Female Friend No. 4, baka “borderline” case
ito. Hahaha…
- Me: Astig
talaga!, Female Friend No. 3… I initially thought of protesting pero baka
mapalo lang ako ng paying sa ulo. Hahaha…
- Male Friend
No. 2: “Katulong siya ng may-ari ng bangko. She checked kung pumasok na
sweldo nya.”
- Female Friend
No. 5: “She is ignorant plain and simple. The teller should have told her
that she has to follow the line. It is the teller’s fault”
- Me: Hi, Female
Friend No. 5… I agree with you that the teller was largely to blame.
However, the lady really exhibited a rather aggressive personality and the
teller could have been intimidated and chose to be prudent. So rather than
adhere to procedures, she simply anchored hope that all of us in line will
understand the situation. Well, it could have been a more scandalous
incident if someone (even gently) requested her to toe the line. Who
knows? Kahit ako nga, kimabahan din. Hahaha! Cool ka lang, Female Friend
No. 5… you’re a lot prettier when you’re not annoyed! Hahaha…
- Me: Hi,
Male Friend No. 2… baka naman nasisante ng boss nya kaya tila mainit and
ulo. Trivia numa tayo: If “katulong” is not a politically correct term for
this lady who works for a bankowner, what would be the right term? ---
Answer: “KASAMBANGKO”! Hahaha…
- Female Friend
No. 5: “I am not annoyed. I was not there to witness the incident so my
response could only be based on her photo which led me to conclude that
she is not aware of the procedure.”
- Me: You’re
right, Female Friend No. 5… she is not aware of procedures. If a lesson
could be learned from this incident, it should be: Banks must device
procedures to deal with clients like her. O… Smile ka naman dyan!
- Male Friend
No. 3: “Di Obra ka Female Friend No 5 yan! Ha ha ha joke lang po. Peace!”
- Female Friend
No 6: “Dunno what I could have done but I won’t let it pass by me”
- Me: Here comes
another Katipunera in my friend, Female Friend No. 6… ang tatapang ng mga
Pinay ngayon! Relax lang, Female Friend No 6…
- Male Friend
No. 4: “Pards, bka nman cya mayari na lupang inuupahan ng bangko.
Eccentric lang kya ganyan bhis nia. Don’t judge he, she is not a passbook,
just update her. Bwahahaha”
- Female Friend
No. 7: “If it is just to update a passbook, you can bypass the line in
most banks.”
- Female Friend
No. 8: “Sometimes kasi, naka-angat ng konti eh nagiging ganyan nga siguro…
dapat somebody opened their mouth and said something in a nice manner…
“Ale, Ms., lahat po kami dini ay nakapila at may numero… sige doon nap o
kayo sa likod…” Ooooh lala… Di oobra yan dito”
- Me: Oo
nga, Male Friend No. 4… let’s not judge a book when it’s covered. Hahaha…
- Me: Hay
salamat, Female Friend No. 7… finally a cooler head. Hahaha…
- Me: Female Friend
No. 8… Another Katipunera in Connecticut, USA. Simple explanation:
Differences in culture. Ganyan talaga ditto. Hahaha…
- Male Friend
No. 5: “SUKI YAN SIGURADONG KILALA NG TELLER LAKAS NG LOOB EH”
- Me: Malamang,
Male Friend No 5… sounds logical!
This was the last item on this thread of comments as of the time I
started writing this piece. Parang bitin, di ba? So I’ve decided to
write a little conclusion to this unworthy bank incident and the subsequent
exchange of views from my Facebook friends and me. This incident could
still end in something positive with a good lesson to learn. A short case study in sociology perhaps…
Reading through the commentaries again, it is very apparent that men are
more tolerant for incidents like this. Why? Perhaps, men are less
vocal and argumentative (thanks to the Pinays for “training” us to be such…
Hahaha!) and would sometimes resort to brute physical strength to settle issues
and disputes. There is an old adage that says: “When men are lost for
words, they draw their swords.” Oftentimes, we find men in fistfights
than women in hair tugging and pulling scenes.
On the other hand, again judging from the comments, women seem to be
more combative and have less tolerance for public display of unruly behavior as
in the case of the lady bank client. They would seemingly be the first to
react and take action. As my Female Friend No. 6 said: “I won’t let it
pass.” I remember my late mother also taking this very vigilant but
protective stance… huwag na huwag mong aapihin ang anak niya at lagot ka!
The contrasting way by which women and men manage situations like this
gave way to the worldview that women will be bad choices for positions of
diplomacy. (Please allow me to highlight that this is a “worldview” and
not my personal opinion.) I’ve also read somewhere that if women ruled
every nation on earth, the world will be in a perpetual state of war.
(This again is another worldview.)
In the Philippines, the Secretary of Foreign Affairs has traditionally
been given and still being given to men to this day. But wait!... in
another part of the world and in the most powerful nation on earth, diplomatic
portfolios are also being given to women. In the United States, the
cabinet position of Secretary of State is the primary personality who manages
foreign policy. We’ve witnessed the statesmanship and brilliance of women
like Madeleine Jana K. Albright, Condoleeza B. Rice and Hillary Diane R.
Clinton who, in their time as the top officers of the State Department, were
largely revered and respected all over the world. Some even say that,
because of their “motherly” dimension (a trait also very typical of Filipino
women), they were more effective than some men who handled the same post.
They really were experts of foreign policy and diplomacy…
Just my little thoughts…
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